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Posted by Ayanna , Sat, Aug 13, 2005, 09:55:37 Post Reply Forum
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Morning everyone,
I'm sitting here with my morning coffee and it is a such a beautiful day, I'm very happy. I was in a dark negative mood and I don't like that. I will not go into too much detail, and I refuse to name names. I'm comfortable with these things I'm about to post. I feel the need to share and I'm going to, but it isn't at the expense of others, that is not my way.
I haven't been around for a long time. I guess I started posting on the boards back in February, under a different handle though. Anyway I have come across some really great people, men and women alike. I have had the pleasure of *****ing people and asking their advice on certain things. I have even called some (good, reputable) ladies when I was in a slight pinch when I needed some quick advice, actually more than once. She did not mind at all, took the time to speak with me and gave me some helpful tips and I will never forget that.
I have had the pleasure of meeting some great gentlemen. I have even sought advice from some of you via ***** and vice versa. I have to admit, I was really amazed with this hobby and how everything worked.
I have also had the displeasure of running into some rather distasteful men. Some have been well known posters, some not. It doesn't matter. I have had some guys take cheap shots at me when they have realized they failed my screening. It always seems as if when you don't do something someone wants, mean, nasty vile things spew from their mouths. I'm seeing more and more of this now. That's life though. Unfortunately, yes I took some of these things to heart. BIG MISTAKE!! Let me tell you, that WILL NOT happen again! Time to move on!
I do like communicating via ***** to past present & future clients, I have no problem with that. That is because I want to. I have realized that is a big no no as well, as it totally depends upon who it is you are communicating with. Sometimes people view kindness as a weakness and prey on it. I'm not a weak person. I'm strong minded and strive to reach certain goals I have set for myself in life. I treat people the way I want to be treated.
Maybe I should become a person who sees that if I've gone over 1/2 an hour expect to be paid for it, but you know I just can't seem to do that. Sometimes people need someone to talk with and I cannot tear myself away from a damn good conversation and just kick someone out the door. Yup, I enjoy conversation too much. Yes, some of you may think me crazy for being this way, but this is the way I bond with some great clients. For the ones who don't take advantage this is great for me. All ladies run their business they way they choose.
Alright, quick & to the point I enjoy this hobby very much. There will always be a negative and a positive side of things. I need to be a bit more picky about my clients, I really thought I was doing a great job up until now. The first time a client ever refers to another provider in a negative fashion, I will hand you your bloody envelope back and tell you to get the hell out. If this is done after services rendered, you will be out on your a** in a heartbeat, no giving the envelope back at all. DO NOT send me stupid a** *****s about other providers' problems, that is none of my damn business. I don't care what you guys hear on the backchannel, keep it to yourselves! If you are talking to me about other providers, I know bloody well you are talking about my a**!!!
Cut throat sh**, manipulation and game playing I'm not into. I was in this position & pretty much shocked when I received said *****s and I lost what respect I had for this person. At first I thought it was just something he thought he could trust me with, as I never said a word about it to anyone else. I see his true colors now and don't want anything else to do with him. He was not a regular client either, it has been 2 months since our last meeting.
No, I will not share the information I have. I did delete those *****s, but they are still in my sent box pretty much with my replies. I didn't like being in that position. If I were to post crap like that, it would hurt other ladies and I refuse to do that. I'm just telling you all, there will be no drama, I'm just saying what is on my mind and if some of you don't like it, BITE ME.
Manipulation. I don't like someone thinking they have control over me either. I plan on raising my rates as of September 1st. Clients that see me weekly, bi-weekly or once per month are those that I consider to be "regulars", and will be "Grandfathered" into my old rates. There are plenty of gentlemen who understand these things, some do not.
First starting out on different sites before even posting on these boards, I advertised under massage at my massage rates. I had nobody to school me and I was afraid to advertise under escort, so hence the different pricings. I won't allow anyone to hold that over my head. It wasn't until I had my website built that I gained enough confidence to label myself as an escort, this was a whole new world to me.
I was way too eager with locking clients into my old rates at $100 per additional hour. Yes, that was "my mistake", I'm human and I'm learning. I still have a lot of clients at those rates because they see me on a regular basis. Some haven't seen me in quite some time and expect those old rates to still apply, and I'm sorry but they do not.
Alright, I feel a hell of a lot better after expressing myself.
Thank you all for listening.
xoxoxoxox <<<<<
I guess that's how they manage to have the rep of being so 'clean'; all their dirt gets passed around backchannel, rather than being mostly out in the open and on-board like UG.