I’ll take a crack at answering this. Our interest in swinging was sparked by the party lines in the late 80s early 90s; playing with her while she talked with guys was hot and made for some great foreplay. We talked to a few girls and a few couples and started going to the clubs
We became regulars at off-premise swing clubs in the 1990s - The Phoenix Club and Anita’s in NYC, Finally Michael’s and Long Island Manor on LI. were our favorites, all of them have been gone for a long time. We went to a few on-premise clubs, it was fun but not for us.
We had fun with a few couples and a lot of single ladies. It was amazing how many ladies were calling the phone lines, happy to meet couples and I will love my wife until the day I die for all the fun I had during those years
Every once in a while she wanted to be the center of attention and that was fun, too. It was always threesomes with one of the husbands of one of the couples we knew. And it felt safe.
We stopped around 2001 and it seemed like that was that. But in 2012 we started talking about it again (during sex) and the idea of having another man join us was exciting. She wanted a younger guy - I don’t blame her! I didn’t feel like being the old guy in a threesome. So it was two of them for an audience of one.
I guess I was a cuck but I certainly wasn’t submissive. I didn’t get undressed, didn’t jerk off, I sat in a chair next to the bed, usually sipping whiskey. I talked to her a lot; gave him advice but he didn’t need my help.
I’d watched her with guys before (when we were younger) but doing it this way – watching her as an older woman with a young guy -- was real powerful. I may have been the cuck but I felt like I was the one in control.
Someone in this thread commented on the husband thanking him – yeah I did that too. I thanked him for treating her with respect and making her feel real sexy.
Anyway, we did it twice, two years apart with two different guys. We’re closing in on 60 now and both have some minor health issues so I doubt we’d ever do it again.